Estrangement Coaching

It’s your dirty little secret: you’re estranged from a loved one or lifelong friend.

It can last for a period of time or the rest of our lives, estrangement is the literal turning away or treating someone who was once close to us as a stranger. Common causes include divorce, dysfunctional family patterns or simply that your family doesn’t accept who you are. But, unlike your friends who’ve lost a loved one through death or divorce, you can’t talk about it because you’re embarrassed. Like it’s your fault or worse yet – you wonder if they’ll look at you and ask what’s wrong with you? Or maybe you just feel disloyal if you speak up against someone else.

So, instead of turning to others in a time of need, you turn inward – questioning, hurting and often waiting for the phone to ring to have a chance at reconnection.

Estrangement has become a silent and widespread epidemic in our society. Each of us has experienced an estrangement from someone at some point in our life. From the richest to the poorest, separation from a family member has become so commonplace – yet, most of us who are estranged from a loved one have no place to turn for support.

Sometimes the hardest part about being estranged is that you have no control over the situation. Through compassionate guidance and support you can learn to let go and find acceptance – acceptance of yourself and acceptance of the situation. Understanding too that you’re not alone – that we all have looked in the mirror and asked ourselves “Why can’t I get along with my family like everyone else?” can help you heal and find comfort.

I know the pain of being separated from people I’ve cared deeply about. The drama, the cycle of connection and disconnection, the horrible self-doubt – it takes a toll. For much of my life, I was trapped in a game of dysfunction and commotion – buying into negative beliefs about who I was. With nowhere to turn for help, I used the constant back and forth to beat myself up and hold myself back. My health suffered, my other relationships suffered and my self-esteem was awful. I mean if my family couldn’t see I was important, how could I?

Working with children as a Guardian ad Litem for years I saw pain similar to my own – especially with children from bitter divorce battles. As a Master Integrative Life Coach & Reiki Healer, I became deeply aware of how many people really struggled with separation from others without any support. My passion has become helping people share and overcome the struggles that have kept them in the dark too long.

Learning about all the ways to explore and release the anger and pain in a healthy way is part of the process. I’ll show you what it means to truly surrender to what actually is happening, and even find gifts you might not have expected. You’ll learn what it means to have a healthy relationship with yourself and set clear boundaries – no matter the outcome.